Santipolo

I am heading back here to Blogger. Over the next year I am phasing out all my domain names and will just go totally Google

I know I have done good in my life. I know my life has been one a great many could not have coped with but I did and I am proud of that. I know that even now I do what I can for myself but mainly others, still putting them first despite myself. I don’t feel the need to justify myself any longer and I apologise if that offends the so called ‘experts’ but I know my life choices, based on my life realities have been the right ones. If this has meant some people in society have had to pick up the tab then I am thankful that I live in a country where we will do that. Getting ill like this can happen to anyone. Getting worse than currently can too. It feels so illogical that others make judgements like they are experts on their own future whereas none of us can be! None of us know when our own personal shit is going to hit the fan and we need the support of others. When it happens, we should never be made to feel guilty. I never want anyone to say “there, there” ...

Is it safe to have sex with someone who is HIV+? It can be, it is certainly totally OK to have a relationship with them and love them totally. It has to be remembered that everyone who is HIV+ got that way because they didn’t take precautions. Sure, some just didn’t care, they fucked whoever they wanted to hell with the consequences, that’s a reality, both men and women. I’ve never told anyone this before but, the very first time a guy fucked me (when I was drunk and sleeping), he didn’t use anything. He didn’t know his status, he didn’t care what his status was. By the time I was aware what was happening it was too late. Truth is, I was raped yet I did nothing about it because he was my friend, I trusted him and I was stupidly naive. I did get myself tested and I was OK but, he didn’t know that, he didn’t care. I could easily have been HIV+ myself now because I trusted someone. I was later in another relationship, it was an open rel...