Some updates for you

Link to the Letter Northamptonshire Carers sent to me

 

Basically, what that says is that I am sacked! What was my crime?

On my website ‘Wotalife’ I had one page which said that I was prepared to effectively take any pictures a client may want of an intimate nature. Those sort of pictures have thus far been either guys with soft willies or a female very pregnant and very tasteful. So, I had this page and thought nothing of it. However, there was a link to my website from the Northamptonshire Carers website and someone at the charity HQ noticed that page on my site and went to defcom 1. I received an email several days later telling me that I had to break all connection between the two sites, promise not to use the camera partly funded by them for anything of ‘that nature’ and to refuse to do any work on any Carers photographically. Further they told me they would not accept any charitable donations from my photographic work. Not only did they tell me this but they also insisted that when the hard copy of the letter arrived that I sign and return it to them within 14 days else there would be serious consequences!

I immediately contacted them and apologised for any perceived offence and that I would write ‘Wotalife’ again so as not to cause an issue and would also remove the links but would not be signing anything as to do so would be to agree to their assertion that any failure to do so ‘would’ harm the reputation of Northamptonshire Carers and ‘would’ lose them funding, as they decided ‘would’ happen.

They said they didn’t care what changes I made, I still had to sign that letter.

I then produced ample evidence by way of weblogs of visitors to Wotalife to prove that there simply cannot be any risk as the site just didn’t have the sort of visitor numbers to have proved problematic. The figures were very small indeed and only went into double figures after this staff member drew attention to it. I also explained at length how, now that the ‘offending’ page had been changed, it was impossible for it to be of any further risk even if we agreed with the assumption that it would have before. I explained in full and dumbed down technical detail just about every way I could that there simply wasn’t an issue here.

However, today I got a letter telling me I was effectively sacked.

To make matters worse, because they own the domain name, they’ve transferred it to their own server along with some of my content!

To make it doubly worse … they knew about this decision of theirs last Wednesday, they also knew that I had been asked to work by them on Friday and, I had also reminded them this was the case yet no one saw fit to tell me I wasn’t needed. I gave up 5+ hours of my time there and an hour or so editing pictures all for nothing!

At no time did they so much as ask for a face to face meeting to discuss anything, just a superior attitude that they were right, I was wrong, they didn’t need to prove anything, just treat me like a common pervert!

It would be fair to say it’s made me damn angry!

BUT

Oh, not the good news yet …

My phone died after less than 18 months. O2 says ‘not our problem’ but, HTC say, ‘sure, we’ll repair it under warranty as long as it is a fault and not damage’. That’s great news except that I think it is damage, not damage that I caused but a design issue which seems to have pulled the power switch apart when I opened the case because the phone froze. Anyway, they are coming out Thursday to collect it.

AND

I was so annoyed I bought myself a new phone anyway! No, I can’t really afford it but, it was either that or eat too much!

BUT

We are off on holiday this Sunday! I can’t afford that either but sod it, I am going anyway!

Get my hair done Friday which is brilliant because it’s really starting to piss me off!

Hopefully, will be trying out Squash with Adam on Friday morning

He’ll probably not thank me for mentioning this but, Robin is currently in hospital. He took a turn for the worse yesterday, chest pains. The hospital were not happy with blood test results and he’s now got to undergo some more tests … they are saying that in the best case, they will send him home not knowing what caused the pain, in the worst case, he could need heart surgery, hopefully more shall be known tomorrow. Please write me if you want more info, he seems to think they are keeping him there a few days at least.

Some updates for you

Link to the Letter Northamptonshire Carers sent to me

 

Basically, what that says is that I am sacked! What was my crime?

On my website ‘Wotalife’ I had one page which said that I was prepared to effectively take any pictures a client may want of an intimate nature. Those sort of pictures have thus far been either guys with soft willies or a female very pregnant and very tasteful. So, I had this page and thought nothing of it. However, there was a link to my website from the Northamptonshire Carers website and someone at the charity HQ noticed that page on my site and went to defcom 1. I received an email several days later telling me that I had to break all connection between the two sites, promise not to use the camera partly funded by them for anything of ‘that nature’ and to refuse to do any work on any Carers photographically. Further they told me they would not accept any charitable donations from my photographic work. Not only did they tell me this but they also insisted that when the hard copy of the letter arrived that I sign and return it to them within 14 days else there would be serious consequences!

I immediately contacted them and apologised for any perceived offence and that I would write ‘Wotalife’ again so as not to cause an issue and would also remove the links but would not be signing anything as to do so would be to agree to their assertion that any failure to do so ‘would’ harm the reputation of Northamptonshire Carers and ‘would’ lose them funding, as they decided ‘would’ happen.

They said they didn’t care what changes I made, I still had to sign that letter.

I then produced ample evidence by way of weblogs of visitors to Wotalife to prove that there simply cannot be any risk as the site just didn’t have the sort of visitor numbers to have proved problematic. The figures were very small indeed and only went into double figures after this staff member drew attention to it. I also explained at length how, now that the ‘offending’ page had been changed, it was impossible for it to be of any further risk even if we agreed with the assumption that it would have before. I explained in full and dumbed down technical detail just about every way I could that there simply wasn’t an issue here.

However, today I got a letter telling me I was effectively sacked.

To make matters worse, because they own the domain name, they’ve transferred it to their own server along with some of my content!

To make it doubly worse … they knew about this decision of theirs last Wednesday, they also knew that I had been asked to work by them on Friday and, I had also reminded them this was the case yet no one saw fit to tell me I wasn’t needed. I gave up 5+ hours of my time there and an hour or so editing pictures all for nothing!

At no time did they so much as ask for a face to face meeting to discuss anything, just a superior attitude that they were right, I was wrong, they didn’t need to prove anything, just treat me like a common pervert!

It would be fair to say it’s made me damn angry!

BUT

Oh, not the good news yet …

My phone died after less than 18 months. O2 says ‘not our problem’ but, HTC say, ‘sure, we’ll repair it under warranty as long as it is a fault and not damage’. That’s great news except that I think it is damage, not damage that I caused but a design issue which seems to have pulled the power switch apart when I opened the case because the phone froze. Anyway, they are coming out Thursday to collect it.

AND

I was so annoyed I bought myself a new phone anyway! No, I can’t really afford it but, it was either that or eat too much!

BUT

We are off on holiday this Sunday! I can’t afford that either but sod it, I am going anyway!

Get my hair done Friday which is brilliant because it’s really starting to piss me off!

Hopefully, will be trying out Squash with Adam on Friday morning

He’ll probably not thank me for mentioning this but, Robin is currently in hospital. He took a turn for the worse yesterday, chest pains. The hospital were not happy with blood test results and he’s now got to undergo some more tests … they are saying that in the best case, they will send him home not knowing what caused the pain, in the worst case, he could need heart surgery, hopefully more shall be known tomorrow. Please write me if you want more info, he seems to think they are keeping him there a few days at least.

Fairly uneventful

But a good day so far all the same

 

 

Not heard back from Northamptonshire Carers following the ‘incident’ last week about which I am very disappointed.

 

 

 

Had a nice meal with Robin, thank you

 

 

 

 

Tesco delivered just a few minutes late, the driver was rather cute so it would have been wrong to complain

Fairly uneventful

But a good day so far all the same

 

 

Not heard back from Northamptonshire Carers following the ‘incident’ last week about which I am very disappointed.

 

 

 

Had a nice meal with Robin, thank you

 

 

 

 

Tesco delivered just a few minutes late, the driver was rather cute so it would have been wrong to complain

Mobile Blogging

There may be no stopping me now, blogging has gone mobile

Mobile Blogging

There may be no stopping me now, blogging has gone mobile

A New Week

Did some detailed planning for New York and discovered some other fun things we could do when we are there that I didn’t do last time which has to be good. Going over it again later in the week to be sure we can do them but looking good.

Amazing news … I made a cheeky phone call to Northampton General Hospital about my eye and they can fit me in Friday morning so, all things being equal, I may have my eyesight back again by … OK, I am not overly optimistic how soon that would be but, it will be quicker for the appointment on Friday!

Seems two people I need to hear from are both unavailable today, is rather annoying but, on the plus side, less to deal with until tomorrow at least!

Reasonably free week, yay! Am not using my car for lifts and favours any more, I can’t afford it so, if anyone does need a lift or a favour, sorry (unless you can pay for the fuel)

On a financial note, I am going to have to make some serious cut backs. It’s not possible to reduce my income any more now, it either stays as it is or stops so, I am one of the poor of the UK officially now so looking at my options, it doesn’t look very promising to be honest! But, it’s only money

Contrary to the above statement, New York is really close now, glad I saved for that when I had money!

Mood still reasonably good though, I have felt a few tinges of ‘down’ this morning I am just telling those twinges to fook the hell off!

Nice day with the family yesterday

I am still not interested in Minecraft!

A New Week

Did some detailed planning for New York and discovered some other fun things we could do when we are there that I didn’t do last time which has to be good. Going over it again later in the week to be sure we can do them but looking good.

Amazing news … I made a cheeky phone call to Northampton General Hospital about my eye and they can fit me in Friday morning so, all things being equal, I may have my eyesight back again by … OK, I am not overly optimistic how soon that would be but, it will be quicker for the appointment on Friday!

Seems two people I need to hear from are both unavailable today, is rather annoying but, on the plus side, less to deal with until tomorrow at least!

Reasonably free week, yay! Am not using my car for lifts and favours any more, I can’t afford it so, if anyone does need a lift or a favour, sorry (unless you can pay for the fuel)

On a financial note, I am going to have to make some serious cut backs. It’s not possible to reduce my income any more now, it either stays as it is or stops so, I am one of the poor of the UK officially now so looking at my options, it doesn’t look very promising to be honest! But, it’s only money

Contrary to the above statement, New York is really close now, glad I saved for that when I had money!

Mood still reasonably good though, I have felt a few tinges of ‘down’ this morning I am just telling those twinges to fook the hell off!

Nice day with the family yesterday

I am still not interested in Minecraft!

Still feeling good ….

Despite some people I though had some respect for me, shitting on me from a great height, well, sod them! If they don’t appreciate what I’ve done for them over the years, how much money I have saved them enough to make a simple phone call, then they can go stuff themselves! What they did deserves nothing short of a total, unreserved apology!

Is lovely weather again today so I went out with Daisy over Errington Park with the boys. Josh wasn’t overly cooperative, I think it is probably because of all the nightmares he is having thanks to a certain person once again screwing with his mind!

My old printer was officially deemed beyond economical repair so I’ve had to buy a new one, was just not managing well borrowing one. Says a lot about the quality of products that it is deemed acceptable for them to last way under 2 years with light use!

A man from the council tells me that he will call me next week to let me know what should be happening there.

Need to do some more detailed planning on New York!

Still feeling good ….

Despite some people I though had some respect for me, shitting on me from a great height, well, sod them! If they don’t appreciate what I’ve done for them over the years, how much money I have saved them enough to make a simple phone call, then they can go stuff themselves! What they did deserves nothing short of a total, unreserved apology!

Is lovely weather again today so I went out with Daisy over Errington Park with the boys. Josh wasn’t overly cooperative, I think it is probably because of all the nightmares he is having thanks to a certain person once again screwing with his mind!

My old printer was officially deemed beyond economical repair so I’ve had to buy a new one, was just not managing well borrowing one. Says a lot about the quality of products that it is deemed acceptable for them to last way under 2 years with light use!

A man from the council tells me that he will call me next week to let me know what should be happening there.

Need to do some more detailed planning on New York!

A better day :-)

Today has been quite a good day. I have arranged a few social things, something else to look forward to. Not had to deal with anything overly stressful, they sort of worked themselves out. Still not an amazing day and difficult to call it a good day, more a ‘not bad’ day and I shall settle for that.

I have decided there is nothing can be done about the council issue until they get and deal with my appeal so that’s temporarily put on the back burner. Yes, I may have to quit driving very soon but, it’s not the end of the world, there are alternatives (mostly).

Also today I have opened a line of communication to someone I don’t really know, a possible new friend, just a friend but, that’s sort of cool and what I am looking for.

Someone once (OK, many times) said to me ‘I don’t do sex’ which I now understand to mean, unless it handed to them on a plate so I’ve decided, I too don’t do sex! Of course, I may need to turn the heating up with my ‘broken’ thermostat!

Molly (cat) has been really affectionate lately, she seems to have forgotten she is the mad scratchy one.

I think the car is probably falling apart, I don’t care, it’s not my car.

Am looking forward to the possibility of a new kitchen and bathroom and more plug sockets and quite possibly to the entirely new colour scheme we will have everywhere.

So, instead of feeling totally negative, today I am having some positivity thrown in for good measure. I’m not stupid, I know this can change in a flash but I’m sticking with this feeling for now.

A better day :-)

Today has been quite a good day. I have arranged a few social things, something else to look forward to. Not had to deal with anything overly stressful, they sort of worked themselves out. Still not an amazing day and difficult to call it a good day, more a ‘not bad’ day and I shall settle for that.

I have decided there is nothing can be done about the council issue until they get and deal with my appeal so that’s temporarily put on the back burner. Yes, I may have to quit driving very soon but, it’s not the end of the world, there are alternatives (mostly).

Also today I have opened a line of communication to someone I don’t really know, a possible new friend, just a friend but, that’s sort of cool and what I am looking for.

Someone once (OK, many times) said to me ‘I don’t do sex’ which I now understand to mean, unless it handed to them on a plate so I’ve decided, I too don’t do sex! Of course, I may need to turn the heating up with my ‘broken’ thermostat!

Molly (cat) has been really affectionate lately, she seems to have forgotten she is the mad scratchy one.

I think the car is probably falling apart, I don’t care, it’s not my car.

Am looking forward to the possibility of a new kitchen and bathroom and more plug sockets and quite possibly to the entirely new colour scheme we will have everywhere.

So, instead of feeling totally negative, today I am having some positivity thrown in for good measure. I’m not stupid, I know this can change in a flash but I’m sticking with this feeling for now.

Today …

I was just about holding it together, trying not to let things get to me and then I get home to a letter from the council telling me that I now have to pay £88.70 to them for rent and council tax because Deej has left, I only actually get £103 a week leaving me less than £15! Obviously (hopefully) there has been some sort of cock up but, in the meantime, I am no doubt going to start getting those threatening letters they send out demanding I pay up or else.

Quite honestly I feel that the best thing for me to do is to become a total and utter bastard who treats people like shit, they seem to do alright out of life, being an OK person clearly isn’t working out for me.

Being really upset and frustrated I then upset someone who I care about which just upset me more making me feel even more like shit.

As of now I wish life would just go away and leave me alone, I can’t run fast enough to keep up with it all falling apart so quickly

Today …

I was just about holding it together, trying not to let things get to me and then I get home to a letter from the council telling me that I now have to pay £88.70 to them for rent and council tax because Deej has left, I only actually get £103 a week leaving me less than £15! Obviously (hopefully) there has been some sort of cock up but, in the meantime, I am no doubt going to start getting those threatening letters they send out demanding I pay up or else.

Quite honestly I feel that the best thing for me to do is to become a total and utter bastard who treats people like shit, they seem to do alright out of life, being an OK person clearly isn’t working out for me.

Being really upset and frustrated I then upset someone who I care about which just upset me more making me feel even more like shit.

As of now I wish life would just go away and leave me alone, I can’t run fast enough to keep up with it all falling apart so quickly

Hotel Transylvania, nearly forgot

 

The movie looks OK

Hotel Transylvania, nearly forgot

 

The movie looks OK

Suddenly a little light went out ….

In my fish tank and that bulb costs over £13! So, I have searched online and come up with some for under £6 which seems way more reasonable!

Popped over to Robin to swap the cars over again after our visit to Kent yesterday and, on filling it up was amazed to discover that Kent and back cost £45! Had no idea that sort of trip would be so expensive, that’s around 17p a mile in Robin’s car, thankfully my car is a little more economical but, not by much!

Met up with Deej earlier, it was pleasant enough but we never moved anything forward in our relationship. In time there may be a clearer understanding of the issues but, right now we are too far apart to get anywhere.

Bought a rug for the photo studio earlier. It’s going to need collecting but it’ll look good and was under £17 compared to all the buy it now offers of £45+

Still been feeling really tired today, I really should get myself checked out

Restarted Facebook … not overly interested in the main thing but I did need it active to get access to the Photo bit of it and, as I now have a working studio again, I need as much publicity as possible.

Watching ‘Hugo’ tonight as a family, I hope it’s good as Zoey has been on at us to watch it for months! Looked at the list of movies on our Virgin flight, seem OK, many I’ve already seen and some I haven’t which look OK.

Not feeling terrible social today, not that I have felt terribly social for some time but not today for sure.

Suddenly a little light went out ….

In my fish tank and that bulb costs over £13! So, I have searched online and come up with some for under £6 which seems way more reasonable!

Popped over to Robin to swap the cars over again after our visit to Kent yesterday and, on filling it up was amazed to discover that Kent and back cost £45! Had no idea that sort of trip would be so expensive, that’s around 17p a mile in Robin’s car, thankfully my car is a little more economical but, not by much!

Met up with Deej earlier, it was pleasant enough but we never moved anything forward in our relationship. In time there may be a clearer understanding of the issues but, right now we are too far apart to get anywhere.

Bought a rug for the photo studio earlier. It’s going to need collecting but it’ll look good and was under £17 compared to all the buy it now offers of £45+

Still been feeling really tired today, I really should get myself checked out

Restarted Facebook … not overly interested in the main thing but I did need it active to get access to the Photo bit of it and, as I now have a working studio again, I need as much publicity as possible.

Watching ‘Hugo’ tonight as a family, I hope it’s good as Zoey has been on at us to watch it for months! Looked at the list of movies on our Virgin flight, seem OK, many I’ve already seen and some I haven’t which look OK.

Not feeling terrible social today, not that I have felt terribly social for some time but not today for sure.

Kent was good!

I really must remember that I have a small camera than my DSLR! I keep stopping myself taking the kit and then wonder, when I am there, why I don’t have a camera with me! I think I’ll keep my orange camera in my bag in the future!

Made good time getting there, everyone seemed to sleep well on the journey, except me of course. Lovely to meet Dawn and the kids. Was great chatting, going over the park and generally relaxing, their new home is lovely and I really hope they’ll be able to stay there for a while now after waiting for so long.

Still getting stupid messages from Javis demanding I return this and that to him …. let’s remember for one moment the huge list of what he actually owes me shall we? Strange how, once again he can only remember what he wants, shouldn’t be surprised really, it’s how he thinks. Was dead annoying getting one today whilst sitting at Dawn’s. trying not to show how angry I was and with who, I think she worked it out maybe, shouldn’t happen, just shouldn’t!

Been looking at Robin’s car, it doesn’t appear to have any form of roof bar as far as I can see. That being the case, not sure where the luggage will go taking Matt, Anne and family to Brum airport? They could have busy laps! Just checked, no roof bars at all, not sure the ones currently on the roof box will fit at all but, if not, roof bars are around £130! If the luggage and people can’t fit in one car then it’s double cars which is twice the cost, one for people, the other for luggage. Bit of a bugger really, Matt or Anne, hope your reading this as I’m not entirely sure what to do and there isn’t much time.

Got reiki in the morning, that’s good, means I can start the day off relaxed, maybe I should turn my phone off as I don’t want any more stupid demanding texts ruining my day.

We have ‘The Dark Knight Rises’ at the Forum on Weds & Thursday eve, seems like a plan I think if me and Daisy are available. Bought a cheap squash racket for Daisy too so we can start playing squash if she organises some babysitting for the boys.

Kent was good!

I really must remember that I have a small camera than my DSLR! I keep stopping myself taking the kit and then wonder, when I am there, why I don’t have a camera with me! I think I’ll keep my orange camera in my bag in the future!

Made good time getting there, everyone seemed to sleep well on the journey, except me of course. Lovely to meet Dawn and the kids. Was great chatting, going over the park and generally relaxing, their new home is lovely and I really hope they’ll be able to stay there for a while now after waiting for so long.

Still getting stupid messages from Javis demanding I return this and that to him …. let’s remember for one moment the huge list of what he actually owes me shall we? Strange how, once again he can only remember what he wants, shouldn’t be surprised really, it’s how he thinks. Was dead annoying getting one today whilst sitting at Dawn’s. trying not to show how angry I was and with who, I think she worked it out maybe, shouldn’t happen, just shouldn’t!

Been looking at Robin’s car, it doesn’t appear to have any form of roof bar as far as I can see. That being the case, not sure where the luggage will go taking Matt, Anne and family to Brum airport? They could have busy laps! Just checked, no roof bars at all, not sure the ones currently on the roof box will fit at all but, if not, roof bars are around £130! If the luggage and people can’t fit in one car then it’s double cars which is twice the cost, one for people, the other for luggage. Bit of a bugger really, Matt or Anne, hope your reading this as I’m not entirely sure what to do and there isn’t much time.

Got reiki in the morning, that’s good, means I can start the day off relaxed, maybe I should turn my phone off as I don’t want any more stupid demanding texts ruining my day.

We have ‘The Dark Knight Rises’ at the Forum on Weds & Thursday eve, seems like a plan I think if me and Daisy are available. Bought a cheap squash racket for Daisy too so we can start playing squash if she organises some babysitting for the boys.

Nervous much!

I am now, I wasn’t yesterday nervous about this photo shoot but, now I am! I am almost certainly too critical of my own work, others have said the results are good … the trouble for me came when they said they had no clue what they wanted really! That’s worrying, a client who has no clue what direction their pictures should go in. Fun for me and my imagination of course but, what if my imagination doesn’t match their reality? Anyway, they are taken now and I really don’t want to be doing any more so, they shall have to do. Here are some to look at for now:

There are loads more but these are what I am hoping they might like. They were all shot in bright light in Baldock Hertfordshire this morning around 10:00

On another note …. I am finding that since leaving Facebook (for now) I am actually contacting people, real people who actually contact me back, how awesome is that? I plan to start meeting people soon as well, you know, like we used to back in the old days before Poking someone was as close as we got to physically being there.

Been tired all day today, dead annoying! Tomorrow I need to be awake! Off to Kent and looking forward to it!

Been looking into dating sites, not to meet someone special but just to broaden my contact base. I’ve barely made that many new friends in recent years so thought perhaps I should make an effort.

OMG! 4 weeks tomorrow until New York, it’s a little bit awesome really.

I still need my hair cut! Maybe I should save money and just wait until closer New York?

Maybe another bath tonight or, perhaps a shower, undecided on it at the moment … depends if I can get anywhere near the TV, I may play on the xbox and, whilst I am at it, make sure a certain someone is totally disconnected from me on there!

Nervous much!

I am now, I wasn’t yesterday nervous about this photo shoot but, now I am! I am almost certainly too critical of my own work, others have said the results are good … the trouble for me came when they said they had no clue what they wanted really! That’s worrying, a client who has no clue what direction their pictures should go in. Fun for me and my imagination of course but, what if my imagination doesn’t match their reality? Anyway, they are taken now and I really don’t want to be doing any more so, they shall have to do. Here are some to look at for now:

There are loads more but these are what I am hoping they might like. They were all shot in bright light in Baldock Hertfordshire this morning around 10:00

On another note …. I am finding that since leaving Facebook (for now) I am actually contacting people, real people who actually contact me back, how awesome is that? I plan to start meeting people soon as well, you know, like we used to back in the old days before Poking someone was as close as we got to physically being there.

Been tired all day today, dead annoying! Tomorrow I need to be awake! Off to Kent and looking forward to it!

Been looking into dating sites, not to meet someone special but just to broaden my contact base. I’ve barely made that many new friends in recent years so thought perhaps I should make an effort.

OMG! 4 weeks tomorrow until New York, it’s a little bit awesome really.

I still need my hair cut! Maybe I should save money and just wait until closer New York?

Maybe another bath tonight or, perhaps a shower, undecided on it at the moment … depends if I can get anywhere near the TV, I may play on the xbox and, whilst I am at it, make sure a certain someone is totally disconnected from me on there!