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Knowing I was different Hating most parts of living with parents Holiday with the 1st Boyfriend Last Family Holiday with my Parents My Young and fit mode Heterosexual marriage Acting the content family man Trying to be very gay Neither gay or straight Doing an ill advised C4 Documentary Trying to straddle two worlds Professional Photographer Mode Silly Goth Period Trying not to be fat Trying to get fit Trying to be really gay First Philippines Trip Chilling at Home Last time I ‘worked’ You can see from the pictures which range almost 50 years that I have looked very different over the years. These appearances barely hint at how many perceptions there are of who I actually am. To the point now, in 2023, I also don’t really know who I am either. As a kid as young as 5 I was very aware that there was something different about me . I knew for an absolute fact that I didn’t find girls in any way interesting and yet, I found other boys very interesting yet, not their s...

I wonder how many I have looking at my blog are in their late teens? From distant memory it was seen as a huge success for a teen 16+ to bed a much older woman, to have their own ‘milf’. Society seems to accept that this is OK, some might even argue, it’s good to have a woman with some experience to show them the way and then we have Huw Edwards! I do not pretend to know the man. This said, I am a bit of an expert on gay dads. Many will have known about their sexuality before they got married. They will have lived in an environment where even for them to accept their sexuality was not acceptable, just not a realistic option. They would have to give up everything familiar. Mr Edwards is the same age as me more or less. Back in the 1970’s there were very few parts of the UK where being out and proud was an option. The vast majority of men will have suppressed their sexuality, got married (to a woman they no doubt love) and had children and as life progressed the ve...

Yes it grabs the attention, makes people look but … one question I get asked too often is “which of you is the woman?” I do not want my sexuality confused as a gender issue. Thanks to my lovely husband in the foreground. My own perspective on gay pride and, indeed the so called ‘community’. Firstly, understand the history of pride. It started when gay people finally took a stand against the homophobia they were subjected to. For many years gay people were unprotected, no laws gave them equal rights not even the laws of the lands they lived in as citizens from birth. They were seen as criminals and generally people with severe mental health issues and deviants. With slow progress in many countries we got some kind of equality or, at least legal protecting from prejudice to the point many who don’t recall when it wasn’t there really believe we’ve already got there and Pride has become nothing more than an in your face celebration of a job we...